Thinking Clearly in a Time of Fear: How to Understand the AI Moment Without Losing Yourself

There are moments in history when fear becomes the dominant lens through which people see the world. We are living in one of those moments.

Artificial intelligence is not the only source of anxiety today, but it has become the most dramatic. Headlines warn of rogue swarms, runaway systems, and takeover timelines measured in months. Commentators speak of “AI autonomy” as if it were a biological organism. Even seasoned journalists – people trained to interrogate claims – are reporting sleepless nights, convinced that something catastrophic is on the horizon.

This fear is real. It is human. And it deserves to be taken seriously.

But fear is not the same as truth. And right now, fear is drowning out the conversation we actually need to have.

This essay is an attempt to help people think clearly in a time when clarity is hard to find. It is not a reassurance that “everything will be fine.” It is not a dismissal of legitimate concerns. It is an invitation to understand what is really happening – not the cinematic version, not the sensational version, but the human, systemic, and deeply consequential version.

Because the truth is this:

AI is not the threat. AI is the mirror. And what we see in that mirror depends entirely on the systems we have built around it.

1. Why fear feels so overwhelming right now

Fear spreads fastest when three conditions are present:

  • Uncertainty
  • Complexity
  • Loss of trust

We have all three.

The world feels misaligned. Institutions feel distant. Information feels contradictory. People feel overwhelmed. And into this environment we have introduced a technology that is powerful, unfamiliar, and poorly explained.

When a journalist says they cannot sleep because they think AI might “take over,” they are not being irrational. They are responding to a world where:

  • trust has inverted,
  • narratives are amplified without scrutiny,
  • institutions project confidence while losing credibility,
  • and fear has become a form of currency.

AI is not causing this. AI is entering into it.

And that distinction matters.

2. The fear narrative is not emerging from new evidence – it is emerging from systemic strain

The recent escalation in AI fear – the rogue swarm headlines, the six or twelve‑month takeover claims, the calls to pause development – did not come from a sudden leap in AI capability.

It came from something else:

The system around AI is showing signs of strain.

AI is expensive. AI is energy‑hungry. AI is capital‑intensive. AI is infrastructure‑dependent.

And the global economy that supports it is weakening.

When people call for a “pause,” it is worth asking whether they are talking about safety – or about viability.

Fear is not just a narrative. It is a shield.

A shield that hides the fact that the current trajectory is economically unsustainable.

3. Circular fragility: the real risk no one is talking about

In recent months, a new reality has emerged – one that almost no mainstream commentator has acknowledged:

AI and the global economy are now so tightly interlinked that each depends on the other’s stability.

AI requires:

  • vast compute,
  • vast energy,
  • vast capital,
  • global supply chains.

The economy increasingly depends on:

  • AI‑driven productivity,
  • AI‑driven growth,
  • AI‑driven returns.

If AI stalls, the economy stalls. If the economy stalls, AI stalls. If either collapses, both collapse.

This is not science fiction. It is circular fragility.

And circular fragility is far more dangerous – and far more real – than any rogue swarm.

4. AI isn’t the risk – it’s the reckoning

For years, we removed guardrails from our economic, political, and technological systems. We weakened oversight. We rewarded scale over stability. We normalised fragility because it was profitable to do so.

AI didn’t create that fragility. It simply exposes it.

This is why AI feels dangerous. Not because it is plotting anything, but because it reveals what we have already built.

When a powerful amplifier is placed inside a misaligned system, the system does not become dangerous – it becomes visible.

And visibility can be frightening.

5. The lie that makes AI dangerous

There is a lie at the heart of the current AI moment:

That AI is inevitable, unstoppable, and destined to replace human beings.

This lie:

  • normalises human redundancy,
  • frames resistance as ignorance,
  • hides the fact that these outcomes are design choices, not destiny.

AI does not need to replace humans. AI does not need to end work. AI does not need to hollow out agency.

Those outcomes are not technological. They are systemic.

And we can choose differently.

6. The illusion of UBI and the end of work

When people talk about AI “ending work,” they often reach for Universal Basic Income as the solution.

But if AI undermines the very economic logic that generates returns, then the idea that we can simply tax those returns and redistribute them is an illusion.

You cannot fund a universal income from a system that no longer produces universal value.

The real question is not:

“How do we pay people when work ends?”

It is:

“Why are we building a system that ends meaningful human contribution at all?”

7. Human sovereignty: the missing centre of the debate

What is missing from almost every mainstream AI debate is human sovereignty.

We talk about:

  • safety,
  • ethics,
  • regulation,
  • risk,

…but rarely about constitutional guarantees that:

  • humans remain the primary decision‑makers,
  • humans retain control over critical systems,
  • humans are not made redundant by design,
  • humans have the right to meaningful contribution.

A Human Sovereignty Charter is not idealism. It is infrastructure.

Without sovereignty, the system will drift toward whatever is most efficient, most profitable, and most convenient for those who control the technology.

With sovereignty, the system can be designed around human beings.

8. A simple rule that changes everything

There is a principle that could anchor the entire debate:

Technology should only fill jobs when no humans are available.

Not because humans are always better. Not because machines are always worse. But because this rule:

  • protects agency,
  • preserves relevance,
  • forces thoughtful design,
  • prevents redundancy from becoming default,
  • keeps AI in the role of partner, not competitor.

It is simple. It is powerful. And it is the opposite of fear.

9. How to think clearly when fear is everywhere

People are frightened right now. They are frightened because they are being told to be frightened.

But fear is not the antidote to confusion. Clarity is.

And clarity begins with recognising:

  • AI is not a supernatural threat.
  • AI is not an inevitable destiny.
  • AI is not a replacement for humanity.
  • AI is not a force that acts outside human systems.
  • AI is not the cause of our fragility.

AI is a mirror.

It reflects the systems we have built. It amplifies the incentives we have chosen. It exposes the weaknesses we have ignored. It reveals the guardrails we removed. It shows us the world we created.

And that is why it feels dangerous.

Not because AI is out of control, but because the system is.

10. The future depends on critical thinking, not fear

If we want to navigate this moment wisely, we need to encourage:

  • critical thinking,
  • genuine research,
  • thoughtful questioning,
  • systemic understanding,
  • human‑centred design,
  • constitutional guarantees,
  • economic realism,
  • and a refusal to accept fear as a substitute for truth.

We need to stop asking:

“Will AI take over?”

And start asking:

“What kind of world are we building around AI – and does that world still have room for human beings to live, work, decide, and matter?”

The future is not being written by machines. It is being written by us.

And the most helpful thing we can do right now is think clearly, question confidently, and refuse to let fear decide the shape of the world we are building.

Further Reading: A Guided Path Through the Ideas Behind This Essay

The AI moment is complex, emotionally charged, and often overwhelming. Many people are encountering fear‑driven narratives for the first time, and it can be difficult to know where to begin if you want to understand what is actually happening beneath the headlines.

The following readings are arranged in a deliberate order – starting with the foundations of misalignment and trust, moving through systemic fragility and economic strain, and ending with human‑centred governance and practical principles for designing a better future.

Each piece builds on the last. Each one adds clarity rather than fear. And each one is written to help those reading think critically, calmly, and confidently.

1. A World Out of Alignment: Trust Inversion, Systemic Strain, and the Search for Stability

Link: https://adamtugwell.blog/2026/09/02/a-world-out-of-alignment-trust-inversion-systemic-strain-and-the-search-for-stability/

Summary: This is the best starting point. It explains the deeper context behind today’s fear – not AI itself, but the world AI is entering. Trust has inverted, institutions feel misaligned, and people are struggling to make sense of contradictory signals. This piece helps to understand why everything feels unstable right now, and why AI amplifies that instability rather than causing it.

Why it matters: Fear makes more sense when you understand the environment that produces it.

2. The Age of Circular Fragility: Why AI and the World Economy May Now Rise and Fall Together

Link: https://adamtugwell.blog/2026/08/28/the-age-of-circular-fragility-why-ai-and-the-world-economy-may-now-rise-and-fall-together/

Summary: This piece introduces the concept of circular fragility – the idea that AI and the global economy are now so interdependent that each relies on the other’s stability. It explains why calls to “pause AI” may be driven by economic strain rather than existential danger, and why the real risk is systemic fragility, not rogue intelligence.

Why it matters: This piece shows that the AI moment is economic as much as technological – and that fragility, not autonomy, is the real challenge.

3. When AI Builds a Machine World This Economy Can No Longer Sustain

Link: https://adamtugwell.blog/2026/07/20/when-ai-builds-a-machine-world-this-economy-can-no-longer-sustain/

Summary: This piece explores what happens when AI accelerates the creation of a “machine world” – a world optimised for automation rather than human contribution. It explains why our current economic model cannot sustain such a world, and why the push toward full automation is not just misguided but structurally impossible.

Why it matters: It will help to understand that runaway automation is not inevitable – it is economically unsustainable.

4. AI Isn’t the Risk – It’s the Reckoning: How the Guardrails We Removed Made Artificial Intelligence Feel Dangerous

Link: https://adamtugwell.blog/2026/07/09/ai-isnt-the-risk-its-the-reckoning-how-the-guardrails-we-removed-made-artificial-intelligence-feel-dangerous-and-what-it-reveals-about-the-system-we-built/

Summary: This piece reframes AI as a mirror rather than a threat. It shows how weakened guardrails, distorted incentives, and systemic drift created a fragile environment long before AI arrived. AI feels dangerous because it exposes what we have already built – not because it is plotting anything.

Why it matters: Here’s where we begin to see AI clearly: not as a monster, but as a magnifier.

5. The Lie That Makes AI Dangerous

Link: https://adamtugwell.blog/2026/04/17/the-lie-that-makes-ai-dangerous/

Summary: This piece dismantles the myth that AI is destined to replace humans. It explains how this lie normalises human redundancy, encourages passivity, and hides the fact that replacement is a design choice – not a technological inevitability.

Why it matters: It helps reclaim agency and reject fatalistic narratives.

6. The Human Sovereignty Charter for Artificial Intelligence

Link: https://adamtugwell.blog/2026/03/07/the-human-sovereignty-charter-for-artificial-intelligence-a-constitutional-framework-for-human-centred-governance-of-ai-full-text/

Summary: This is the constitutional backdrop of my work on AI. It lays out a framework for ensuring that humans remain the primary decision‑makers in an AI‑enabled world. It offers rights, principles, and governance structures that protect human agency and prevent systems from drifting toward machine‑centred outcomes.

Why it matters: It demonstrates that there is a path forward – one that protects humanity without resorting to fear.

7. As AI Ends Work: Waking Up to the Illusion of UBI and the Need for a New System

Link: https://adamtugwell.blog/2026/01/20/as-ai-ends-work-waking-up-to-the-illusion-of-ubi-and-the-need-for-a-new-system/

Summary: This piece challenges the idea that Universal Basic Income can solve the problem of mass automation. It explains why UBI cannot be funded by a system that no longer produces universal value, and why the real question is not how to pay people when work ends – but why we are building systems that end meaningful human contribution at all.

Why it matters: It helps to understand the economic illusions that often accompany AI fear.

8. Technology and Artificial Intelligence Should Only Fill Jobs When No Humans Are Available

Link: https://adamtugwell.blog/2025/11/13/technology-and-artificial-intelligence-should-only-fill-jobs-when-no-humans-are-available/

Summary: This piece offers a simple, powerful principle: humans first, machines when necessary. It explains how this rule protects agency, preserves relevance, and ensures that AI remains a partner rather than a replacement.

Why it matters: It provides a practical, human‑centred design principle that can be carried into every conversation about AI.

Closing Reflection

These readings form a coherent journey:

  • from misalignment,
  • to fragility,
  • to reckoning,
  • to myth‑breaking,
  • to sovereignty,
  • to economic realism,
  • to human‑centred design.

Together, they offer something rare in today’s AI debate: clarity without fear, realism without fatalism, and a path forward that keeps humanity at the centre of the story.

If you take take the time to explore them, you will hopefully come away not just better informed – but better equipped to think critically, calmly, and confidently about the world we are building.

Why isn’t there enough money?

If you’ve been struggling and wondering how you’re supposed to keep going financially, you’re not alone. In fact, growing numbers of people have been struggling for a long time. What almost everyone who’s struggling shares is the feeling that they’re facing it by themselves – that this is somehow only happening to them, or worse, that it’s their own fault.

If this is how you feel, it’s important to understand something clearly: you are not alone, and you have not failed. Yes, a few people struggle because of mistakes they’ve made. But most of the people who are asking how they’re going to buy food, pay bills, or simply keep going haven’t done anything wrong. Prices have kept rising, wages haven’t kept up, and the gap between what life costs and what people earn has become impossible to bridge.

How money works today is far more complicated than most people – and even some economists – realise. There’s a lot to understand about why prices keep going up, why the value of the money in our bank accounts keeps going down at the same time, and why it always feels like we’re the only ones who can’t keep up. If you want to begin understanding what’s really happening with money, I’ll share links that will help you start asking the right questions and make sense of what you’re experiencing.

But right now, the most important thing is not the theory. It’s you – and how you can get help, where you can find it, and how you might be able to help others too. As shortages of food, essentials, and money become more visible, some people will approach solutions in ways that don’t help anyone – least of all themselves. The more we understand what’s happening, the better placed we are to support each other rather than compete with each other.

One thing we can be absolutely sure of is this: the people you see using food banks, claiming benefits, or getting other kinds of support are almost never in that situation by choice. They were simply closer to the edge than others, and it has suited some to suggest that they’re struggling because of something they’ve done wrong.

If you need a clearer picture, consider this: a significant number of people who are already on benefits work full time. They need help because the national minimum wage is no longer enough for anyone to live independently on. That’s not a personal failure. That’s a system failure.

And you’re not imagining it.

If you want to explore the deeper causes behind this, you can look at:

Stop Blaming Welfare for Problems This Economic Model Created

Nobody grows up wanting to depend on support.

Most people want the same basic things: to work, pay their bills, handle life’s shocks, and have enough left over to build some kind of future.

Yet across Britain, more people are discovering that doing everything expected of them is no longer enough.

They work. They budget. They cut back. They try harder. And still the numbers do not add up.

So public debate keeps asking the same question: why are so many people dependent on welfare?

But that may be the wrong question.

The better question is: why are so many people no longer financially independent?

Because welfare did not create that problem. Welfare was built because that problem already existed.

It was built to contain problems that wages, housing, work, and the wider economy had failed to solve.

That is why blaming welfare for rising hardship is like blaming a thermometer for a fever. It may show that something is wrong, but it did not cause the illness.

1. The real crisis is the loss of independence

For years, poverty has been discussed mainly through income lines, benefit levels, and official measures. Those figures matter, but they do not capture the basic reality most people understand immediately.

Poverty begins where independence ends.

A person is not truly secure if they cannot meet essential costs without debt, charity, family help, or state support. They may be working. They may not appear destitute. They may not fit the image of poverty commonly used in political debate. But if one normal setback can push them into crisis, they are not independent.

This is the difference the current debate keeps missing.

Millions of people are not simply below or above a poverty line. They are living on a trap door: just about managing until the rent rises, the car fails, the hours are cut, the child needs new shoes, or the energy bill lands.

That is not a welfare problem. It is an independence problem.

Welfare becomes visible only because independence has already failed.

2. Work is supposed to provide security. Too often, it no longer does.

The old promise was simple: if you worked hard, you could stand on your own feet.

That promise has broken down for too many people.

Imagine a single adult working full time on the legal minimum wage. They are not refusing work. They are not living extravagantly. They are doing exactly what the system asks them to do.

Then the ordinary costs of life arrive: rent, council tax, transport, energy, food, phone, clothing, basic household goods, and the need to save something for emergencies.

The margin disappears. There is no cushion. No real resilience. No room for a broken boiler, a rent rise, a period of illness, or a costly journey to keep a job.

At that point, welfare is not replacing work. It is making low-paid work survivable.

Cutting welfare does not fix low pay. It exposes people to the consequences of low pay.

3. The mechanics are simple: support rises when independence falls

Welfare demand does not rise in a vacuum. It rises when the rest of the system stops giving people enough security to stand without help.

Independence falls when wages lag behind essential costs, when housing consumes more of income, when work becomes insecure, when savings disappear, and when one ordinary shock becomes unaffordable.

The result is predictable. More people need support — not because they changed, but because the arithmetic changed.

Yet political debate often reverses cause and effect. It treats the demand for support as the problem, instead of asking why support became necessary.

That is why welfare is not the source of instability. It is the scaffolding holding up a weakened structure.

4. Cutting the scaffolding does not repair the building

Nobody is saying the welfare system is perfect. Nobody is saying dependency is desirable. Nobody is saying reform is unnecessary.

But if reform begins with cuts before it understands what welfare is currently holding up, it mistakes the prop for the problem.

For many households, benefits are not an optional extra sitting on top of a stable income. They are part of the structure that allows rent to be paid, food to be bought, children to be clothed, and work itself to continue.

Remove that support without first repairing wages, housing, essential costs, job security, and household resilience, and the pressure does not disappear. It moves elsewhere: into arrears, debt, food banks, family strain, ill health, homelessness, and crisis services.

That is basic systems thinking. You do not remove load-bearing support from a failing structure and call the collapse reform. You reinforce first. Then, and only then, can you reduce the need for the support.

5. Dependency is real – but welfare is not the only cause

Critics are right to say that dependency matters. A society should not be comfortable with large numbers of people needing external support to survive.

But dependency is not created by welfare alone. It emerges when income, essential costs, housing, transport, childcare, health, and resilience no longer align.

If work cannot provide independence, cutting welfare does not remove dependency. It merely changes its form: from state support to debt, insecurity, charity, family pressure, ill health, or crisis.

Reform should therefore reduce dependency by restoring independence, not by withdrawing support before independence is possible.

6. Growth can look healthy while people become poorer

This is one of the great failures of modern economic debate. The headline numbers can look reasonable while ordinary life becomes harder.

GDP can rise while households become poorer. Inflation can fall while essentials remain unaffordable. Employment can rise while independence collapses.

That is why so many official explanations ring hollow. People are not rejecting reality. They are comparing national claims with their own bank accounts.

They are told the economy is growing, but their rent takes more. They are told inflation is easing, but food is still expensive. They are told work is the answer, but work leaves them dependent on top-ups, debt, or family help.

The system can therefore appear to be improving while real-world independence continues to erode.

Cutting welfare does not reverse impoverishment. It accelerates it.

7. This is why trust breaks down

When institutions keep saying one thing and people keep experiencing another, trust does not disappear because the public is irrational. Trust disappears because official explanations no longer match lived reality.

People hear that work pays, but see workers needing support. They hear that growth means prosperity, but feel less secure. They hear that welfare is the burden, but know that without it many households would fall straight through the floor.

That is the trust crisis underneath the welfare debate. It is not simply political. It is mechanical. The public can feel the system failing before institutions are willing to name the failure.

8. The real danger now is misdiagnosis

When political actors believe the problem is simply “the wrong party in No. 10,” they reach for the wrong tools:

  • welfare cuts
  • sanctions
  • conditionality
  • punitive measures
  • behavioural interventions

But the problem is not behaviour. It is independence.

And independence cannot be restored through reduction. It can only be restored through equipping.

Welfare is not the cause of instability. It is the last remaining support in a system where work no longer provides independence.

Cutting it without strengthening independence is not reform. It is destabilisation.

9. The answer is to rebuild independence

The solution is not to pretend that welfare can carry forever what the economy no longer provides. Nor is it to remove support and call the resulting hardship discipline.

The answer is to rebuild the conditions that allow people to stand independently: wages that meet essential costs, housing people can actually afford, work that is stable enough to plan around, local economies that retain value, and public systems designed to equip people rather than merely manage their failure.

10. The message that needs to be heard

People are not asking for luxury.

They are asking for stability: the ability to work, pay their bills, absorb life’s shocks, and build a future without living permanently one step from crisis.

For generations, that was the promise at the heart of the social contract. Today, for growing numbers of people, that promise no longer holds.

That is why welfare demand continues to rise. Not because dependency has become desirable, but because independence has become harder to achieve.

Until we understand that distinction, we will keep treating symptoms while the underlying condition worsens.

The real question is not how quickly welfare can be cut.

The real question is how quickly independence can be rebuilt.

That is where the future of economic security will be decided.

Further Reading

For readers who want to go deeper, the pieces below build the wider framework behind this argument: first the immediate crisis, then the living standard and independence test, then the economic evidence, human reality, and longer-term reform model.

1. When the System Runs Out of Road
Britain’s benefits crisis, defence dilemma, and low-wage economy
The best starting point for the wider argument. It explains why welfare pressure is connected to a national economic model built on low wages, public subsidy, and postponed reform.

2. The Basic Living Standard Explained
The minimum conditions required for work to provide dignity and security
This sets out the baseline beneath the article: full-time work should cover essential costs without leaving people dependent on debt, charity, family help, or state subsidy.

7. The Contribution Culture
Transforming work, business, and governance through contribution
This develops the positive alternative: a society organised around contribution, capability, and participation rather than narrow employment statistics or punitive conditionality.

3. The Independence Threshold
A new definition of poverty for a modern economy
This develops the central test used here: whether people can meet essential needs and absorb normal shocks without external support.

4. Tax Cuts and Universal Credit
Why tax cuts do not automatically restore independence
This explains why headline tax changes can fail to help households trapped by Universal Credit dynamics, taper rates, low wages, and high essential costs.

5. The Impoverishment Index
The widening gap between official economic narratives and lived experience
This supports the claim that the economy can appear to grow while household security continues to weaken.

6. How Would You Feel If It Were You?
A human lens on policy, hardship, and judgement
This adds the human reality behind the systems argument, showing why policy debates must begin with lived experience rather than abstract judgement.

8. The Local Economy & Governance System
A wider model for rebuilding economic resilience locally
This places the welfare argument inside a broader approach to local economic renewal, governance reform, and long-term systems repair.

Why is government not working?

You might be surprised at how many people are asking this same question. But you probably won’t be surprised at how many people also think they already know the answer – and believe they’re “right.”

Talking about government is tricky because it almost always drags us straight into politics. And once politics is involved, most of us start thinking about whichever party or group we usually support. We judge how government is performing through the lens of who we voted for, who we like, or who we can’t stand.

I’m sure you can relate to feeling more forgiving when the people in charge are the ones you support – and much less forgiving when they’re not.

But here’s the part that’s hard for many of us to get our heads around:

It no longer matters.

The reason government isn’t working today has very little to do with politics in the way we usually think about it. That’s why you’ll hear people say things like “they’re all the same” or talk about a “uniparty.” It’s not that all politicians secretly belong to one big club. It’s that every political party we can choose from today is still part of the same way of thinking.

And that way of thinking – not a group of elites, not a secret organisation, not the banks or big business – is what has shaped every decision that has led us to where we are now.

This is what “the establishment” really means. Not a class. Not a conspiracy. A worldview.

A worldview that every major political party shares, even the ones that claim to be “anti‑establishment.” And once you understand that, you start to see why government feels stuck, confused, or unable to fix anything – no matter who gets elected.

How government works today – how politics works, how elections work, how decisions are made, and how those decisions affect you and me – is far too complex to cram into one message here. And trying to do that would only confuse things further.

Yes, we need to understand what has happened, why it has happened, and where politics is heading now. I’ll give you links that will help you explore those questions and ask new ones too.

But for now, what matters just as much – if not more – is finding others who are looking for direction, who want to put reason before fear, and who are open to working together to take positive steps in the same way.

Whatever difficulties lie ahead, we will be far better able to face them together than alone.

Why does everything feel unstable?

Things feel unstable because they are unstable.

You’re not imagining it. You’re not being dramatic. You’re not “doomscrolling yourself into a panic.” Much of what we see in the world outside our homes and communities is breaking down – and the reason so many of us have been questioning ourselves is because the people who have power and responsibility keep speaking and acting as if nothing is wrong.

Government isn’t functioning. Politics isn’t working. The public sector isn’t delivering. The prices of everything are becoming increasingly unaffordable. People sound angrier than they used to. The world outside our doors doesn’t feel safe.

And while there are plenty of loud voices shouting about what’s wrong, very few of them offer ideas or solutions that actually sound like they would work. Most of what we hear either feels too simplistic or too complex to make any sense of.

I’m not going to try to talk you through every reason things have become as unstable as they are – not here. There’s simply too much to cover, and trying to cram it all into one place would overwhelm you rather than help. If you want to understand what’s happening, why it has happened, and what we all need to start thinking about next, I can point you to other pieces that will help you ask the right questions and find your footing.

What you do need right now is space. Space to think. Space to ask questions. Space to connect with people who are putting reason before fear and who want to find a way forward that works for everyone – not just for themselves.

And you shouldn’t feel bad for asking this question. Many others are having the same thoughts and feelings you are.

Mainstream media talks around the edges of what matters, touching the surface but rarely explaining anything in a way that helps. Social media is full of people saying the things we want to hear – confirming that our feelings are real – but that’s usually where it stops.

The time has come to look, ask, read, listen, consider, and act in ways that make sense to you, rather than relying on what someone else says.

You’re not alone in feeling this way. And you’re not wrong to ask.